A married person may find himself/herself to have strong feelings for another member of the opposite sex despite being in a committed relationship. The person may feel in love but the love here doesn’t mean agape love which refers to acceptance and sacrifice for the beloved, yet it also doesn’t mean eros love which is […]
Marital Infidelity
Infidelity: To Forgive and Forget is a Harmful Advice
It is a cause of concern when clients tell me that they were previously advised to forgive and forget their partner’s betrayal. This advice is friendlier to the strayed spouse but constricting to the betrayed partner. The betrayed partner could feel unnecessary guilt because he/she couldn’t do what was being asked of her. Marie was […]
Infidelity Effect: Symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome
Once upon a time, you were living in the quiet of your own world and in the safety of your daily rhythm. Life was pretty normal, you’re normal, everything is normal. Things were in their proper places as you know it. Life for you isn’t perfect, but you’re coping well and you’re getting by. Until […]
How to cope with infidelity flashbacks
Experiencing flashbacks is one of the re-experiencing symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). If you have experienced infidelity in your marriage, you probably find yourself struggling with this. In a flashback, you may feel or act as though the discovery day when you learned about your husband’s infidelity is happening again. One wife aptly described it this way: […]
The affair story : Do you need to know the details about it?
Discovering that your spouse had an affair can be shocking and traumatizing. At the onset of revelation, you’re probably beginning to question your beliefs about who you are, who your partner is, and the foundation of your marriage. This will be a one big emotional roller coaster ride for you where your thoughts and emotions […]
Emotionally dependent: Do you love your husband more than yourself?
In counseling, I’ve encountered a number of women who are unsure wether they love themselves or not. Loving oneself sounds foreign to them, like it was the first time they’ve heard of it. They are the ones who give their all in their relationship, leaving nothing for themselves. They are the only one doing all […]