Today is another milestone of Yesha. Just this morning I watched her rolled from her back to her tummy and then to her back again. And when she can’t repeat what she has just done, she hollered in frustration. But she kept on trying until she made it again. And this time I was the one who yelled in excitement to congratulate her on the new skill she has just learned.
As of this writing, I can’t help but fall in love over again with my baby, and as the old song goes, “I love her more today than yesterday.” Many times, I find myself kissing her non-stop because of overflowing affection. I love it when she smiles at me. I’m captivated when she gazes at me. And I delight it when she embraces me.
Yes I love my daughter so much. And you can’t blame me if I want only what is best for her. What mother isn’t? That is why, like me, lots of moms are vigorously rummaging the internet for the best baby products and the best baby care to give their little ones. And sometimes, in searching for the best, they became doctorate in breastfeeding, cloth diapers, baby skin care and all the baby stuff out there in the world.
While I admire these mommies, the downside is, too much preoccupation with baby stuff makes a mom forget who her first baby is, her husband. Sometimes, she tends to forget that she was a partner first before she became a mother.
That is plainly understandable, because when we were little girls we already know how to be a mom in general. Remember when we used to fondly play a mommy role? We took care of our baby dolls, tend our playhouse and cook with our toy kitchen wares. And do you always see a play husband in sight? I bet not.
I know of a mom whose marriage became rocky with her husband, they almost got separated. While they were apart, it later dawned on her that unconsciously, she has made her baby her number one priority. She has unknowingly neglected quality time with her hubby, she was not playing her role as a wife anymore, and she was not attentive to her husband’s needs already. Thus, it pushed her husband away from her.
She thought she can make it alone, but every time her daughter asked where her daddy is, it simply broke her. Fortunately, it wasn’t too late for this wifey-mommy. She was able to make it right with her husband. She was able to put things back on their proper places. And now she and her hubby are happily together again.
Striving to be the best mother that we can be is really commendable. But remember, it’s the love and warmth between the husband and wife that makes children feel secured. It’s this loving and nurturing relationship between parents that helps kids develop into emotionally healthy individuals.
Above all, while being the best mom, let us not also forget that the day when we made our marriage vow, was the day we placed our husband right next to God. So for me, I’m a wife first and a mom second.