“Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their labor:
If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up.”
– Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
He told me that it was coined from Napoleon Hill’s 17 Principles of Personal Achievement. He went on to say that one of the best alliances to form is marriage mastermind group. And this tickled my curiosity more.
What is a Mastermind Group
“A mastermind alliance is built of two or more minds working actively together in perfect harmony toward a common definitive object.” – Napoleon Hill
Hill believed that when two or more minds came together with positive energy, a definite aim, and complete harmony, a “third mind,” was formed. All the participants in the Master Mind have access to this third mind which helps the individuals in the group form new ideas and receive inspiration. Thus Master Minds meet with the goal of mutual improvement.
As I continue reading the downloaded book, I realized that we have been informally doing this ever since the time I was employed. It still continued when we were establishing our home based business.
Aside from our common goal, we also have different goals that we pursue. I’m currently building my website – The Family Woman – while he is working on his project. He gives me ideas and tips on how I can monetize my website while I do the same too.
Among the topics that we also have been discussing about are parenting our baby, our new network marketing business, our personal dreams and household chores schedules.
How to form a marriage mastermind group
So how can you form a marriage mastermind group with your spuse?
1. Develop a sincere interest in each other’s endeavors
Whenever Melbert passionately share his goals and planned activities, I immerse myself in his world by paying close attention and asking him questions. That way, it encourages him to open up and share more.
Of course he also shows interests in what I do. No amount of goal — whether they’re big or small — is trivial. Every dream, plan and inspiration is worth listening to.
2. Share your goals and barriers to achieve it.
There are times when his goals seem impossible but I don’t openly comment about it. If it won’t cause inconvenience to the family, I let him explore it and encourage him to try. Whether it’s doable or not, is for him to realize.
When it comes to his impulsiveness to leap in the unknown, I balanced it out by calmly exploring the idea with him more. Sometimes he just gets too excited at first where the excitement will later fade.
3. Give and receive positive and negative feed backs.
Over time we both learned how to give constructive criticism. We do it by kiss, kick and kiss.
The first kiss is we appreciate the good points each one has, then identify what needs to be improved and offer other suggestions. And then emphasize again the good points.
We also have learned how to give and receive advice and suggestions from each other. An approach where neither one of us feel incompetent or inadequate.
4. Set a regular meeting time and place.
Right now, we don’t have a formal meeting place and time yet, but we do talk a lot almost everyday, at home over the dining table or outside during our weekly date. Our conversations do not revolve on business only.
We talk about current issues, about our latest discovery in the net, about our friends and other people we know. It’s a good thing that we have the same wavelength that we can talk about anything under the sun.
During our informal meeting, we update each other of the latest progress of our endeavors. We also share our feelings on certain issues in our individual ventures, our excitement, happiness and worries.
As per my observation, all of the strong couples I know in our community have formed a mastermind alliance in their own marriages as they form their ministries and businesses. .And I’m glad to have them around us as they are our role models.
We are not yet halfway in meeting our individual goals, but I know that in God’s time and guidance, we will eventually get there. Establishing a mastermind group benefits us a lot not only in reaching our personal aspirations, but also in strengthening the health of our marriage. As we continue on supporting each other, we grow as an individual and as a married couple.
I hope that you will also apply Napoleon Hill’s Mastermind alliance in your marriage and see your individual potential and relationship thrive. God bless!
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