Those who marry will experience distress in this life
– 1 Corinthians 7:28
After The Feast, Melbert and I had a double date with our friends who are to be married this year. Our bonding for three hours concluded with my realization that marriage is a lifetime of inconvenience. That if a spouse is experiencing total convenience, then he/she must look inside himself/herself, because there must be something wrong.
Why?
Because whoever believes that marriage is a one happily ever after story, then he/she is setting his/her self for a lifetime of disappointment. In marriage you will be dealing with a lot of inconveniences. Inconveniences like accepting your partner’s weaknesses, considering or giving his/her requests even when you’re not in the mood, doing acts of service even you don’t feel like to, eating your pride (because it has no place in marriage), bridging your differences, accepting their annoying behaviors and attitudes, compromising in decision making, meeting some of their emotional needs, continuous adjusting to their continuous changes, giving up something to make the relationship work and the list could go on.
Do I sound like discouraging someone to marry? Hmm… no, just informing someone who is considering to enter the vocation of marriage. Although it takes continuous hard work to make married life successful, the rewards are all worth it. And the rewards that I am talking about is for you to discover and experience.
Love is difficult. If it isn’t difficult, it isn’t love.
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