Once upon a time, there were two children.Each had an Affection Park inside them. The parks are full of rides, lights, music, and the promise of joy. Child OneIn their park, the gates opened unpredictably.Some days, they were welcomed in with warm hugs and laughter – the rides spinning, the lights twinkling. Other days, without […]
Marital Issues
What to Accept vs. What to Change in Marriage: Drawing Healthy Boundaries
Acceptance in marriage is essential for creating a relationship that truly works. Some aspects of who we are remain relatively unchanged throughout our lives – our basic temperament, core personality traits, and the way our childhood experiences have shaped us. Learning to embrace these fundamental parts of our partner is often the key to building […]
Feeling Lonely and Empty in Marriage
Do you feel alone in your marriage? Do you feel that sense of void and physical ache, that never seems to go away? Perhaps you’re wondering why you’re feeling that way with your spouse. If you don’t have a model of a satisfying and happy marriage, it would be hard to identify and address what […]
Signs Your Spouse is a Covert Narcissist
Some married individuals sense that there’s something amiss on their partner’s character, but they couldn’t put their finger on it. Their efforts to understand their partner, adjust themselves for them, and work on the relationship seem to be futile. To add to these, they tolerate the insentivities and abuses they receive from their narcisstic partners. […]
How to Emotionally Detach From Your Toxic Marriage
Healing and restoring an ailing marriage require both husband and wife to put work in their relationship. Their work may include going to counseling either alone or together, reading books and articles about marriage, attending relationship seminars, and applying their learning and realizations in the relationship, among others. But what if you’re the only one […]
You Can’t Save Your Spouse Who Doesn’t Want to be Saved
There are women who possess a characteristic called savior complex or messianic complex. A wife who has a savior complex believes that she is responsible for saving her husband. Yes, it is noble to help our spouses. After all we vowed to stay for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health. This connotes […]
“Husband not interested on what I share”
“When I watch something on my laptop or something happened to me… I want to share it with my husband, but he says ‘I don’t care.” That isolated feeling. No one to share it with. For example, I was watching this funny YouTube video and tried to show it to him. Well, so what if […]
When husband fell out of love
A wife wrote about her husband who told her that he has fallen out of love. He said that he still cares, but feels no spark anymore. This sentiment is not new to hear. I guess it’s being used by people who want an easy way out of the relationship. Now I can’t help but […]
Common experiences of emotionally abused Filipina Wives
Being in an emotionally abusive relationship can negatively affect a wife’s overall well-being. Wives in this kind of relationship experience low self-esteem, self-doubt, and depression. Also, most of them have been isolated from their social support leaving them with no one to share their burdens. For those who are still connected with their families and […]
Emotionally Distant Husband
Susan described her marriage as emotionally draining, unfulfilling, and frustrating. She feels so alone in her six years of marriage as her husband could not emotionally connect with her. Sometimes it feels like she`s married to a robot, someone who is incapable and uncomfortable with any display of emotion. She is tired in engaging her […]