Once upon a time, there were two children.Each had an Affection Park inside them. The parks are full of rides, lights, music, and the promise of joy. Child OneIn their park, the gates opened unpredictably.Some days, they were welcomed in with warm hugs and laughter – the rides spinning, the lights twinkling. Other days, without […]
Marriage Care
The Good Enough Spouse: Why Your Partner Does Not Have to Be Perfect
Many people come to marriage counseling frustrated and tired, saying things like, “Why can’t my spouse just get it right? Why do they keep letting me down?” If this sounds familiar, you are not alone. We all want our spouses to meet our needs and to understand us completely. But the truth is no one […]
What to Accept vs. What to Change in Marriage: Drawing Healthy Boundaries
Acceptance in marriage is essential for creating a relationship that truly works. Some aspects of who we are remain relatively unchanged throughout our lives – our basic temperament, core personality traits, and the way our childhood experiences have shaped us. Learning to embrace these fundamental parts of our partner is often the key to building […]
4 Small Things that will Strengthen the Bond in Your Marriage
It’s not the yearly, fancy travel that creates a strong marriage, nor the expensive gifts that each one of you receive from each other, but it’s those daily little things that you do for one another that strengthens the bond of a marriage. As they say, “little things are the big things.” This saying also holds […]
Marriage is Being at Home
Being in a marriage feels like living in a house that makes us feel at home. There are feelings of comfort, safety, and security. According to attachment theory, these feelings are important in fostering a secure relationship. Marital researchers suggest that marriage also displays the three characteristics of attachment which are safe haven, secure base, […]
How to Have a Successful Relationship with an Anxiously Attached Partner
Anxious attachment style is one of the four attachment styles which include secure, fearful-avoidant and dismissive-avoidant styles. Read HERE to understand what an attachment style is. A person with an axious attachment style need more connection than a secure person. Therefore, emotional distance and disconnection trigger them which make them anxious and unsafe in the […]
4 Attachment Styles: What is Your Marital Attachment Style?
There are married individuals who feel emotionally connected to their spouses. When they are stressed, they are confident that their spouses have their back and will make an effort to support them. When they share something about themselves, they know that they will be heard, seen, and responded to. In short, they feel loved and […]
Why Your Husband Fights, Walks Out, or Ignores You When Confronted?
Have you ever been frustrated with your husband’s response when you air out your grievance? You wanted to talk about an issue in your relationship, resolve a conflict, and be heard because you were hurt. But to your utter dismay, you’d get nothing. In some instances you noticed some reactions from him whenever you attempt to […]
Deepen your Intimacy: 5 Levels of Intimate Communication
Why do some marriages thrive and why do others just merely survive? One answer could be on the communication levels with which married couples would consistently communicate with each other. A John Powell, the author of the book Why I am Afraid to Tell You Who I Am, discussed the 5 levels of intimate communication. […]
How to Deal with Unsolvable Marital Problems
She wants to save for the future; he wants to spend to enjoy himself. She wants her home tidy and orderly; he wants to be carefree about his things. She wants to pursue further study; he wants to partner with her in the business. These are just some opposing life goals and dreams among couples, […]