Healing and restoring an ailing marriage require both husband and wife to put work in their relationship. Their work may include going to counseling either alone or together, reading books and articles about marriage, attending relationship seminars, and applying their learning and realizations in the relationship, among others. But what if you’re the only one […]
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You Can’t Save Your Spouse Who Doesn’t Want to be Saved
There are women who possess a characteristic called savior complex or messianic complex. A wife who has a savior complex believes that she is responsible for saving her husband. Yes, it is noble to help our spouses. After all we vowed to stay for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health. This connotes […]
Emotionally dependent: Do you love your husband more than yourself?
In counseling, I’ve encountered a number of women who are unsure wether they love themselves or not. Loving oneself sounds foreign to them, like it was the first time they’ve heard of it. They are the ones who give their all in their relationship, leaving nothing for themselves. They are the only one doing all […]
Common experiences of emotionally abused Filipina Wives
Being in an emotionally abusive relationship can negatively affect a wife’s overall well-being. Wives in this kind of relationship experience low self-esteem, self-doubt, and depression. Also, most of them have been isolated from their social support leaving them with no one to share their burdens. For those who are still connected with their families and […]
Silent Treatment in Marriage
In marriage, conflicts and misunderstandings are inevitable. That is why conflict management through open communication is highly important for the success of any relationship. Not only does it help resolve conflict, it also increases the emotional connection between spouses. However, when one spouse is using silent treatment, the open communication, which results to emotional bonding […]
Should You Stay In a Toxic Marriage for the Kids?
Time and again I would hear women who are in an emotionally abusive or dysfunctional marriage say that they are staying in the marriage for their children. As a mother, I understand where they are coming from. No woman wanted her family broken and her children hurt. Some women who are going through the same […]
Law Protecting Women and their Children Against Partner Abuse
I received an email from a distraught woman recently. While I read her message, two things struck me hard. First, her husband wanted her to stop her promising career despite his inability to support their family with his income. Second, which really alarmed me, was that her husband pointed a gun on her when she […]
Signs Of An Emotionally and Verbally Abusive Relationship
Do you feel desperate and helpless in your marriage? Do you think something is not right in your relationship but you couldn’t quite put your fingers on it? Do you find yourself in a predictive cycle of sweet harmony followed by emotional chaos? If you suspect that you are receiving emotional and psychological abuse […]